Let’s talk sex. But not the omnipresent kind of sex that we’re getting bombarded with every day. Actually, in this column we would like to pledge that sex deserves even more of our attention then where it’s currently screaming for. Though, a different kind of attention, one with an introspective quality.
In our sexuality we express ourselves, our emotions, passions, secret fantasies, playfulness and our most intimate desires. You don’t need to be a freudian to recognize that many of our feelings and emotions about ourselves and our relationships are erotic at their core. Sex is one of our most interesting actions that we can play with. Unfortunately for many of us, despite or thanks to today’s hypersexual society, our erotic desires are expressed and satisfied at a very basic level. While sex can be a thrill that helps us dissolve our inhibitions and free us from psychological, spiritual and cultural blockades.
That’s the kind of sexual power we’re going to address in this column, this time especially written for ourselves and for our sisters. Today we, and our fellow Western women, have the freedom to express our sexuality very openly. Yet, it’s very obvious that there’s still a lot of work to do, a.o. think about the task of dismantling the millstone of the ultra close-minded, unrealistic female beauty ideal that is omnipresent in our lives.
But we want to address a more fun topic, a particular phenomena of female sexuality which is getting ignored in this sexual evolution: the wild, emotional messy and untamed female fountain that we all bare inside. Yes we want to address women’s potential to ejaculate repeatedly, without the loss of sexual performance or desire. This wonder almost doesn’t play any role in our collective sexual consciousness.
Why, in 2015, female fountains, a.k.a. squirting, are still a semi-mythical, controversial topic? After all, squirting is a natural option that far most of our female bodies are capable of. Though, many of us have not yet explored squirting or are skeptical about it. Some of us don’t even know it exists. Many of us regard squirting as a supreme male fantasy, an urban myth or as a fabrication by the porn industry.
Why female ejaculation, except of being one category amongst a jillion other porn categories, is being ignored in our sexy modern lives? While female fountains have been around for ever. Female fluids were getting honored in temples as sacred erotic waters. Our ancient female ancestors let their lotus nectar flow fiercely and us, modern emancipated women, collectively ‘forgot’ about our sprinkling powers.
In the West, phenomena must be hypothesized before they can be accepted, and female ejaculation still can’t be totally explained. Apparently women’s sexual anatomy still keeps many mysteries for modern science. Scientists still don’t agree where the hot liquid is coming from, hence the controversy. But since when quarrelling scientist have access to our erotic experiments between the sheets?
There must be something else stopping us to soak ourselves and our lovers in our hot lady juice. Why is squirting so controversial? Are untamed female fountains a bad fit to the current conformity of female stereotypes and sexiness?
During love making, is the media’s image of sex pre-occupying us, making us worry about our visual performance? Feelings of discomfort with our bodies block sexual energy. In popular culture, natural phenomenas like sweat and body hair are deleted. In real life, natural sweat, sounds and fluids can distract us and cause mental barriers to let our ejaculate flow.
Is it the current ambiance of our sex-driven popular culture where there is lots of sex but little emotion? Because female fountains are very emotional, they spring from a deep level of intimacy and an intense state of arousal. Intimacy with a complete surrender to pleasure, without inhibition, will stimulate a woman and push her over the wet edge. Openness for what may come, self confidence, long during stimulation, intense arousal and direct G-spot stimulation are the key elements for gooshy sex. Here you can find a guide to female ejaculation.
A note for the numerous modern lovers who are still mistaken female fountains with urine: Female ejaculate is not pee, it’s a fluid produced by the Skene’s gland. Some things take time to sink, centuries B.C., the ancient Greek scientists Hippocrates and Aristoteles, already revealed that female ejaculation is not urine. More of these clever facts about Female fountains you can find in the book written by squiring expert Deborah Sundah: ‘Female Ejaculation & The G-spot‘.
Since the beginning of the 80s, Sundahl taught many women how to ejaculate. In her sex bible she describes how women are traditionally not encouraged to let go, either emotionally nor physically. She states “to be able to release our juices we have to let our emotions flow in order to, physically and mentally, push ourself over the edge of ecstasy”. She believes learning how to ejaculate is liberating in any area of life.
Sundahl’s also describes the importance of the G-spot, as the physical center of women’s erotic desire. She stimulates her readers to become aware of this organ and, in all details, explains how to activate ones own G-spot.
“The G-spot is not about mind-blowing orgasms, though they are it’s luscious by-product. Rather, as we learned from sexologists, G-spot awakening is about discovering that one’s erotic body has infinite capacity to express emotions, love and intimacy. Learning the G-spot’s secrets is more about awareness than about technique, more about process than about goals, more about relaxation and nourishing oneself than adding another item to one’s to-do list.”
Female ejaculation should never become the next dogma imposed on women. Certainly women don’t need to squirt in order to have an amazing sex life. It’s something very personal and depending on your sexual flavor. Though, only already knowing that you bear an inner wet wild women who’s able to gush all over the place, is empowering. Or is gushing all over the place not lady like?
Dogmas and stereotypes kill passions. Happily we are growing as people, our culture is getting more and more open minded. Gladly the spectrum of sexuality and gender is opening. New gender roles are blurring the lines of whats considered to be feminine and masculine. Mainstreaming the feminine, strong, wild and messy ejaculations can be an affirmation of sexual liberation and gender equality. Breaking down the female ejaculation taboo is a splashing addition to achieve non-binary gender diversity.
No matter what our sex is, our biological characteristics have anyway much more in common than they are different. Yes ladies, and gentlemen, the addition of more fluidity in our sexuality will be good for all of our genderless souls.